I think it was Amp who I first heard the term “gender-neutral marriage” from, and it makes a lot of sense — particularly when put in the framework that Amanda presents in this fantastic post. After reading Dan Savage’s latest book about marriage equality, Amanda gets straight to the heart of the marriage issue, and presents what I think is the best feminist argument yet for gender-neutral marriage:
Basically, the reason that marriage is traditionally a male-female institution was that it was a property transaction and the property was the woman. Traditional marriage is institutionalized female slavery with a bit of slapdash romanticism to make it more palatable. Traditional marriage is legally dead; it died a long, long time ago. When marriage shifted from an ownership situation to a partnership, the “damage” was done and thank god for it. Without it being a legal method of enforcing male dominance over women, there’s no reason for the actual people inside the marriage to be a man and a woman.
The rest of the post is very good, so read the whole thing. I’ve written before that I’ve never heard a particularly compelling argument against gender-neutral marriage, and all the anti’s seem to come up with is “But traditional marriage…” So now that we’ve shown, as Amanda said, that “traditional marriage is dead” and this is a good thing for all involved (I think most conservatives would agree that the wife-as-chattel model isn’t the greatest), why agitate against gender-neutral marriage? What’s the argument for limiting marriage to opposite-sex couples? Why do a man and a woman inherently do marriage better than a woman and a woman or a man and a man? I’m asking seriously here. I know a handful of social conservatives read this blog, and I’m really curious as to where you all weigh in. Go.
*And since I’m soliciting these opinions, I’d like to request that the left-leaning people on this blog (me, for example) take care not to attack the more conservative commentors. Debate away, please, but I’m the one asking for their views, so I’d like to make this a fairly open space for diverse opinions to be shared. You all are excellent at keeping discussions civil, but I know this topic can get heated — let’s keep it as calm as we can on both sides. Thanks!