So read this from The Guardian: ‘Career women make bad mothers’ billboards pulled.
The Outdoor Advertising Association has ordered the withdrawal of controversial billboard ad which read “Career women make bad mothers” following an outcry from working mothers.
The ads, which were part of an OAA campaign designed to promote the effectiveness of billboard advertising, started appearing on the side of buses and on an estimated 11,000 billboard sites this week and were due to run for two weeks in total.
Just as you would expect, rather than an apology we get a “we totes didn’t mean it!” moment:
The strategy head of Beta, Sharon Johnson, said: “There has been a misunderstanding with an important mothers’ forum about this campaign which is about sparking a debate. It is not what the campaign thinks. But rather than offend people the decision has been taken to replace the posters saying ‘Working women make bad mothers’ with other slogans which work just as effectively.”
Yeah, those Internet people have the wrong end of the stick. (And there’s a nice touch at the end of the article with gratuitous ha ha look at those silly hysterical Internet wimminz, in case you missed it.) Gee, ladies, did you have to get all offended? Couldn’t you rather appreciate our super clever campaign? We’re, uh, playing devil’s advocate, or, um, sparking a debate, yeah, that’s it! This was, what’s that phrase, designed to further public discourse!
No no, Ms Johnson. We understand perfectly. Some people thought it perfectly okay to take something for which women are time and again shamed and use it in their charming demonstration of the power of advertising.
What debate is this meant to be sparking, anyway; whether women ought to be allowed to work? Whether women who choose to do so are bad mothers? You know what? We’ve had this debate, such as it is. It’s been done. It’s silly, and it’s offensive. The thing is, the people who feel comfortable plastering this sentiment all over the public spaces of the United Kingdom haven’t given a great deal of consideration to the actual lives of the real live women they’re talking about.
Because that kind of sentiment? Is classist as all get out. It reeks of the notion that women engaging in paid work are selfish where it’s a very very small percentage of women who have the choice as to whether to do so. The idea that women working to support their children are bad parents because of that just doesn’t compute. Of course, this is in a much bigger context of marginalizing poor mothers. This is a world in which poor women have been sterilized, in which people are blamed for being bad parents because they can’t afford to feed their kids optimally, in which poor people’s children have been taken away and sold to rich people and they’ve had no form of recourse. There are real problems for parents who are poor, but they come from a marginalizing system: poverty does not determine whether one is a dedicated parent or not. It is some breathtaking head-in-sand burying that allows anyone to tie paid work with bad parenting. What on earth more should we require of these women?
And the focus is specifically on mothers, of course. No one else could possibly be a proper parent with valuable contributions to make to their children’s lives. That sort of thing is for women only, and if they’re parenting with a man, the burden and blame around caring for children still rests on them, because that’s the proper place for a woman, right?
It is very harmful indeed to say that particular types of women, as a group, make bad mothers. This kind of thing gets thrown at non-white women all the time, and it is heartbreaking. Fat women are told the same, as though they are unhealthy and disgusting and will infect their children with their shameful horrid fatness. Something that’s been coming up a fair bit recently (as though it isn’t being brought up all the time!) is the astoundingly damaging meme that disabled women aren’t fit to parent. I’m sure many of you saw Cara’s recent piece on Kaney O’Neill, which is an excellent takedown of this trope. And Anna’s got a conversation going on reproductive rights and feminist discussions.
Lastly, the OAA/Beta advertisement plays into the construction of all valuable work as paid work. Mothering women are working women, irrespective of whether they engage in paid work or not. Parenting is hard work, valuable work, work that receives too little recognition as such. Stay at home mothers are doing some of the most excellent and substantial work around, and it’s not right to devalue that as no work at all.
Whether the OAA and Beta endorse the idea that ‘working women make bad mothers’ or not is largely irrelevant. Though frankly, if you’re going to spend £1.25m on a campaign, I’m going to think you might be invested in what you say. The heart of it is that they stuck up the message that women engaging in paid work are bad mothers, no question marks, no room for doubt, bright and bold and public. It must be a horrible thing to have to go past on your way to work, and worse when with your children. And as ever, a tighter hold is taken of those women at the intersections of oppressions.