Why is it hard for men to get custody of their children? Why, it’s because feminists have invented things like “domestic violence” in order to take away the children who rightfully belong to their fathers. Nevermind the fact that when men actually ask for full custody of their children, they’re more likely to get it — let’s move right along to the men’s rights sticking points, brought to you by Rachel Alexander:
Women, if you are successful in no other area of life, read this article closely, because you can easily succeed here, the system is so weighted in your favor. Free money, free legal help, and kind court staff. If you don’t work, or don’t work much, you’ll make out even better, so it is best not to work much. And all you need to do is get pregnant! Men, all I offer for advice to you is this: if you have children, you’d better pray that you remain a couple.
Yes, because that’s how it works: Women get knocked up, then suck men for everything they’re worth. Nevermind the fact that men are overall financially better off after divorce than women are (even when they’re paying child support).
“Take care” of the child has little to do with being able to financially support the child. It should, since almost as many women as men work outside of the home now, but because a lot of women with children who split up with the fathers aren’t very ambitious and sit around the house watching soap operas, the law has been crafted to label this as “taking care” of the children, instead of earning money. Since most fathers work full-time, they lose here.
So divorce is somehow correlated to watching soap operas? What?
“Domestic violence” is another disguised way of guaranteeing that the fathers lose. Women are now trained by society to call the police anytime their boyfriend or husband loses his temper, and are using and abusing this taxpayer funded “helpline” at an increasingly alarming rate.
Domestic violence, what a crock. Just let him slap you around for a few minutes and he’ll calm down — no reason to waste taxpayer money on calling the police!
Instead of working out their fights, or leaving the man, women are taking the easy way out and forcing taxpayers to pay for their “tattling” every time they take up the time of a police officer or court. Of course, many times it is the woman who caused the fight, but that is not going to end up in the court’s minute entry.
Wait, I thought this article was about child custody– i.e., what you fight about after “leaving the man.” Get your shit straight, Rachel.
And I hate it too when women waste the valuable time of police officers by tattling on their husbands. Especially since we all know that women court domestic violence — I know that when I get mouthy, I expect to walk away with a black eye!
Does anyone REALLY THINK that many of the mothers who resort to going to court to collect child support are the types of mothers who would spend a full $535/month on one child, as well as another $265/month of their own money (particularly if the child is older than 5 and in school)?
Um… yes? Kids are expensive, and if your ex parter isn’t paying child support, anyone in their right mind would take his (or her) ass to court.
Furthermore, the concept of child support money discourages personal responsibility and ambition. It penalizes the custodial parent for working harder and trying to get ahead, because a higher paying job would reduce the amount of free money they receive from the other parent. It is akin to welfare – if you work hard, you aren’t eligible for it. And it is a double penalty, because it also penalizes the non-custodial parent for working harder. The more money the non-custodial parent makes, the more money is taken out of his paycheck to go to the residential parent.
I don’t even know where to start with this one. Child support discourages personal responsibility? What?? How about, it provides for the kid that you created?
Do we really want to heap benefits on mothers who split up with the fathers, essentially giving “reward” money to women who have sex, instead of letting them suffer the consequences?
I can’t make this shit up, folks.
Everyone knows that sex without true commitment leads to broken down homes and emotional trauma, particularly for any children involved. Everyone also knows that when you have sex, you may get pregnant. In some ways, child support is merely a disguised form of prostitution – women are encouraged to have sex and receive money from any man who succeeds in impregnating them. After sex, the man then has no other contact with the woman except to give her money for the child, and any modicum of visitation he can squeak out. Instead of teaching women to avoid gratuitous sex, our society encourages sex with its condom education and giveaways, and easy access to taxpayer-funded Planned Parenthoods. Women realize they can have gratuitous sex without suffering any consequences, because the safety net of a man’s pocketbook will always be there for them, thanks to the long arm of the moral authoritarian government child support agency that reassures them that they are right.
That’s exactly what I’m thinking when I have sex: My boyfriend’s pocketbook will allow me to live a life of soap opera-watching and bonbon-eating (in between the gutter-whoring, of course).
And what exactly are deadbeat dads? Many “deadbeat dads” are simply fathers who are going through a hard time economically; they may have lost a job, or simply are having a difficult time paying $800/month in child support. Sure there are some fathers who have completely rejected any responsibility towards their children, but that doesn’t mean all fathers should be treated like criminals and rounded up by Sheriff’s Offices and taken into jail. Why are the fathers held accountable while the mothers aren’t?
Well, if they aren’t paying child support, they are committing a crime. And how are mothers not being held accountable? Single mothers are held accountable every damn day, because they’re the ones who are doing the child-rearing.
So what should the solution be? For starters, how about ending child support between parents who both want custody of their children? If someone really wants their children, they will find a way to make ends meet. It just doesn’t cost that much to raise a child, no matter what people whine.
Why do I suspect that she has never raised a child?
The whole article is worth one big mind-numbing read. She loves the anecdotal evidence more than anything — “One woman got high all the time, and sent her kid to daycare with the child support money! Therefore, all single moms are drug-using whores!” I’ve gotta say, though, that the funniest part of the article is that Rachel is the editor of “Intellectual Conservative.” If this is what passes for intellect on the right, then I don’t think we have much to worry about.