Ever since I brought Pablo home he was distantly affectionate. He liked to be in the same room as us, didn’t shy away from a pat on the head, but didn’t like to be held or sit in my lap. I’m not used to kitties like that. Doug is of the model I am accustomed to, the kind of cat that sits on your chest, drools and purrs, leaving a mat of fur behind him.
For the first three months that Pablo was home with us, Ethan and I never once heard Pablo purr. He would on occasion seem pleased or pleasant, but we never got that one patent indicator that he liked us. Then one day he stopped sitting across the room and sat next to us on the couch. He let me hold him for awhile, but only if he wasn’t facing me. He let Ethan hold him for a whole thirty seconds (E was thrilled). And then he purred.
This morning Pablo sat on my lap for twenty minutes while I read blogs. To cat lovers everywhere this probably sounds silly, but it is the first time he has sat with me for so long and enjoyed it.
It’s the simple pleasures.
Edited to add: Ethan knows and remembers dates. He is obsessed with birthdays and how pleasant they are for the recipient of birthday wishes. We adopted Pablo near the time of Ethan’s birthday and Ethan decided that we should have a birthday for Pablo as well. Because we don’t know exactly how old Pablo is, and certainly not when he was born, Ethan picked July 3rd and insisted that we have a birthday party for him.
What would my friends think of me, the crazy cat lady, if I invited them over as E insisted for a cat birthday party? I decided we could do it and masquerade it as a July 4th cookout. I only later realized that the 4th fell on the weeks E would be away from home. I hoped Ethan would forget.
After he got home from his two-week vacation that kept him away from home during the 4th, Ethan asked me if we had celebrated Pablo’s birthday. No, I told him, I forgot. E the Cat Whisperer told me that he had discussed it with Pablo and that Pablo is disappointed and angry with me for forgetting his birthday.
What to do, what to do.