After seeing the above image at Feministing yesterday, there was a little celebration going on in my heart. I felt really joyful at this message and its getting out there. Even though I’m usually opposed to talk about what “real men” do and don’t do, so long as those messages exist, this is definitely the kind I want around.
I saw the note at the bottom of the post, stating that the image had been defaced, but didn’t notice the links and assumed it was a mere reference to the tear at the top. That was annoying, but also not particularly surprising. It wasn’t until today, at Sociological Images, that I saw what was actually done to it. It’s below the jump, as it could easily be considered very triggering.
Sociological Images describes this quite rightly as defending privilege. I think it’s also pretty indisputably defending rape culture. And all I can really say to it is this:
And they say that feminists hate men. But we’re not the ones who think that raping is an identifying characteristic inherent to all who “deserve” the title.
Thankfully, the woman who took the picture also apparently removed the flier from the wall so that it wouldn’t trigger other passersby, who were just trying to get somewhere without a reminder of how much our society still hates them. But that’s not really the point, is it? The point is that someone felt hostile enough towards women’s bodily autonomy and sexual rights to have taken out the exacto knife.
Indeed, I’m now counting down the minutes until someone feels the need to tell me that I just can’t take a joke.