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Jailing women who try to commit suicide

Bei Bei Shuai tried to kill herself with rat poison last year. She survived. But she was pregnant, and her fetus died. Now she’s being charged with murder and attempted feticide.

Shaui’s downward spiral began in late December, when her boyfriend blindsided her. It turned out the man who had fathered her baby and promised to marry her, and with whom she’d recently opened a restaurant, wasn’t going to follow through on any of his promises. He was married to someone else—not divorced, as he’d told Shuai—with two children. And perhaps lacking vision or a spine, he decided he didn’t want to give up his estranged family to start a new one. He left Shuai, sobbing on her knees, alone in a parking lot.

When Shuai looked up, she saw a hardware store, walked in and bought rat poison. She went back to her apartment in Indianapolis and ate the pellets. But she was surprised when they didn’t immediately kill her. Frustrated, she got back in her car and drove northeast to Anderson, where several close friends live, though she didn’t go to any of them. Instead, she went to a gas station, where by chance, Sui Mak’s husband, Bing, spotted her. She was puffy-eyed, pale, out of sorts. He convinced her to drive straight to their home and have a meal. Finally, she confided about the rat poison. They coaxed her into the car and drove her to the hospital.

Shuai spent Christmas on the maternity ward at Methodist hospital in Indianapolis. On New Year’s Eve, doctors decided a cesarean was necessary. The Maks’ 14-year-old daughter named the baby girl: Angel. Everyone expected mother and child to make a full recovery, but after the delivery, Angel started to decline. The hospital asked Shuai to sign forms allowing blood transfusions and procedures. On January 2nd, doctors asked her permission to take the newborn off life support. At that point, law enforcement was notified.

The prospect of her baby’s death led to a second breakdown, according to Mak’s testimony, which was relayed by Shuai’s attorney, Linda Pence. “She was fainting and crying, fainting and crying, drifting in and out of sleep. She was completely unstable.” But that evening, with the help of her friends, she decided to take Angel off life support. Shuai “held the baby for five hours straight until she died in her arms,” said Pence. ‘The whole time Bei Bei was crying and screaming, ‘Why couldn’t I die? Why did they have to take my baby?’”

Shuai spent the next month on the hospital’s psych ward, recovering and grieving. By March, she had resumed running her restaurant. That’s when the state locked her up.

Prosecuting a pregnant woman for attempted suicide is an extreme interpretation of the law, and puts pregnant women in a special class — men and women who aren’t pregnant are never prosecuted for trying to kill themselves.

“Indiana does not prosecute people for attempted suicide,” said Indiana University law professor, medical doctor, and former state representative David Orentlicher. “So now this prosecutor is saying, ‘If you’re suicidal, you better not get pregnant, because you might get thrown in jail.’ That to me is a very important constitutional problem.”

And it’s a very scary proposition, though it isn’t new. Women have been prosecuted for child abuse or feticide when they miscarry; pregnant women who are addicted to drugs have been charged with trafficking drugs to minors; and pregnant women have been forced to deliver via cesarean section under court order. Some states also require doctors to report if a pregnant woman is taking drugs — a law which sounds reasonable on its face, until you think through the logical outcome: Women who are addicted to drugs just won’t seek medical care, which means they won’t get treatment for their addictions and won’t get basic pre-natal care. Cases like this one present the same issue for women with mental health problems — if you’re pregnant and contemplating suicide but talking to a doctor means you might get thrown in jail, you aren’t going to seek help.

It seems obvious that the endgame of this fetus movement is to recriminalize abortion, and these are the grounds on which pro-choice groups oppose such laws. But Paltrow argues that it’s a mistake to think in such narrow terms—that doing so “has ignored how these laws would be used to hurt pregnant women themselves.” Feticide laws are used “as a legal basis to deprive women of their personhood,” she said. “It’s not just reproductive rights. It’s not just the right to privacy. It gives the state authority to say that, while other human beings will have health problems that will be treated through a compassionate health-care response, pregnant women alone will be imprisoned without bail for not being able to guarantee the outcome of their pregnancy.”

All of which makes the state of Indiana—and Alabama, Texas, South Carolina, and some 30 other states with feticide laws—seem cruel if not unusual for imprisoning a woman who happened to be pregnant when she tried to kill herself. I posed this notion to Marion County’s Rimstidt, but he didn’t get it: “You mean the fact that she killed her baby with rat poison is cruel?”

Lolz.

Knut as a baby

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The Washington Post inadvertently publishes my online dating profile with the editor’s notes still included. Thanks for the link, Rebe!

I like big butts and I cannot lie, but is there some evolutionary reason as to why?

First page of my book: What do you think? (Amazing for DFW fans out there) (sorry to ruin the joke).

Zoopreme Court you are so cute. (via the Hairpin).

Steven Colbert you are so cute. (Also if you are not following his Sen. Kyle tweets you are missing out).

Oh man, I am going to put a serious damper on things now, but my favorite zoo animal OF ALL TIME has passed on. Currently, I am in a state of shock and denial. He was only four years old! How could this have happened?! I need to go now, but look at this little guy OMG he was so cute 🙁 🙁 🙁

[Back to your regularly scheduled Serious].

Dear Everyone: Please Stop with the Sarah Palin “Pregnancy Hoax” Rumors

Pregnant Sarah Palin
Oh my god she doesn't look pregnant in a photo taken from an odd angle where you can't see her stomach!

This is so mind-blowingly stupid.

An interesting footnote has emerged to a theory that raged around the Internet during Sarah Palin’s candidacy for Vice President. The theory is that Sarah Palin is actually the grandmother of her purported son Trig, not the mother, and that she staged a gigantic hoax during the campaign to cover up this fact.

Professor Bradford Scharlott of Northern Kentucky University has looked into this story in detail and written a long academic article about it. He concludes two things: First, that the “conspiracy theory” is likely true—Sarah Palin staged a huge hoax, and, second, the American media is pathetic for not pursuing the story more aggressively.

Scharlott’s article walks through all the evidence supporting the theory, including the photos of Palin in what is said to have been a late-stage pregnancy, the leisurely 20-hour trip home that Palin took after she supposedly went into labor in Texas, the refusal of the hospital where Trig was supposedly born to even confirm that he was born there (let alone who was the mother), strange statements from Palin’s doctor and the McCain campaign, and so on.

And Scharlott concludes that, given that this hoax would be a massive fraud perpetrated on the entire country by a vice-presidential candidate, the media absolutely should have pursued the story more aggressively.

The biggest hoax in American political history. (We are so bad at hoaxes).

Just because someone flies while they’re at the end of their pregnancy or doesn’t “look pregnant” does not mean that their daughter gave birth and they passed the baby off as theirs (also, a teenage girl giving birth to a baby with Down syndrome is exceedingly rare, so if we’re comparing “evidence I pulled out of my ass,” put that down on “the baby is Sarah’s” side). But “All Palin would have had to do—then and now—to prove that she was Trig’s mother was, ironically, produce a birth certificate,” says Gawker. No. Nope. No. That didn’t work out so well with the Birthers, did it? Let’s not pretend that the people who are convinced that Trig Palin is really Bristol’s are so much more reasonable than the folks who think that Obama was born in Kenya. They are all a bunch of unreasonable people! And unreasonable people, by definition, cannot be reasoned with! So I can’t say I really blame the Palins for stonewalling and refusing to dignify this ridiculous conspiracy theory with “proof.” (Now if only they would behave with dignity about anything else).

Go to Walgreen’s and demand a pap smear.

Oh wow this idea is brilliant:

FLASH MOB ALERT!!!

FOX & Friends thinks we don’t need Planned Parenthood because women can just get their breast exams and pap smears at Walgreens (which is not true). Let’s prove them wrong by demanding these health services at Walgreens across the country and seeing what happens.

Here’s what to do this Saturday at 12 PM:

1) Pick your favorite local Walgreens
2) Get a group of friends together or connect with people via this event page.
3) Go try to get your pap smear!
4) Don’t forget to bring your video cameras and share your footage on YouTube!

View the Colbert Report’s take on Planned Parenthood: http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/381282/april-11-2011/pap-smears-at-walgreens

PLANNED LOCATIONS:

New York City: 1471 Broadway, between 42nd and 43rd street http://tinyurl.com/4xpc3kz

DC: 1217 22nd Street NW, between M and N Streets.

Madison, WI: 15 E. Main Street (on the Square)

Let’s get on it, ladies. See you at Walgreen’s.

Contraception use is the norm among religious women

Not surprising, but putting it out there for the folks who think that there’s actually some sort of legitimate debate about contraception in the the United States — it’s really only fringe anti-choicers who oppose birth control. And yet those fringe anti-choicers seem to be calling the shots right now when it comes to Planned Parenthood funding? Anyway: Religious women use birth control. Shocking!

Contraceptive use by Catholics and Evangelicals—including those who attend religious services most frequently—is the norm, according to a new Guttmacher report. This finding confirms that policies making contraceptives more affordable and easier to use reflect the needs and desires of the vast majority of U.S. women and their partners, regardless of their religious beliefs.

“In real-life America, contraceptive use and strong religious beliefs are highly compatible,” says Rachel K. Jones, the report’s lead author. “Most sexually active women who do not want to become pregnant practice contraception, and most use highly effective methods like sterilization, the pill, or the IUD. This is true for Evangelicals and Mainline Protestants, and it is true for Catholics, despite the Catholic hierarchy’s strenuous opposition to contraception.”

Women of all sorts of belief systems can agree on one thing: It is not awesome to have a baby when you really don’t want a baby. Also:

* Among all women who have had sex, 99% have ever used a contraceptive method other than natural family planning. This figure is virtually the same among Catholic women (98%).
* Among sexually active women of all denominations who do not want to become pregnant, 69% are using a highly effective method (i.e., sterilization, the pill or another hormonal method, or the IUD).
* Some 68% of Catholic women use a highly effective method, compared with 73% of Mainline Protestants and 74% of Evangelicals.
* Only 2% of Catholic women rely on natural family planning; this is true even among Catholic women who attend church once a month or more.
* More than four in 10 Evangelicals rely on male or female sterilization, a figure that is higher than among the other religious groups.

Yay, we all love birth control!

Feminism makes boners sad.

I Can't Believe It's Not Butter Ad

That’s the argument put forward by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, writing in Psychology Today (thanks, Ariana, for the link). They start off here:

One sexual enigma perplexes both women and their clinicians: Why do so many American women have difficulties in bed?

Well, let’s see: Dudes who couldn’t find a clitoris with GPS and GoogleMaps? Women who are taught to be self-conscious about their bodies and especially their lady-bits? Dudes who assume that if they put it in they’ve done their part? Women who don’t feel the same sort of entitlement towards sexual enjoyment as men? Men who see sex as something that they “get” rather than as a dynamic and highly variable set of acts between two people? Women who are raised believing that being too sexual is slutty, but that sex is something that they have to do for men, and that sex is centered on male pleasure? The construction of sex as between men and women, and something men do to women, and purely penetrative, and beginning when the dude enters and ending when he ejaculates? The many wonderful but sometimes frustrating complications of the human brain and body?

Nope:

Though several factors specific to the design of the female brain contribute to this problem, there is one important psychological factor that may be unique to modern democracies. This factor is one of the unmentionables of sexual science, but since our book is filled with unmentionables, we’ll whisper it here:

The majority of women have submission fantasies.

…oh.

Why? Because Romance Novels.

From classic romance The Flame and The Flower to classic erotica The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty to Twilight BDSM fan fiction, submission themes are immensely popular in cross-cultural female erotica. The fact of the matter is that most heterosexual women are wired to find sexual submission arousing–and so are most female mammals.

Why? Because Rats.

Consider Rattus norvegicus, the Norwegian rat. The female performs stereotyped physical actions associated with sexual interest. First is pacing: running and stopping, inducing a male to chase her. This culminates in lordosis: assuming a submissive stationary posture with arched back and raised hips. Lordosis is controlled by a specific region of the hypothalamus, a subcortical brain structure. An analogous part of the brain controls submission postures in female primates.

In male rats, another part of the hypothalamus controls stereotyped dominance activity, such as mounting a female and performing intromission.

…and then there’s a picture of two rats totally fucking doggy-style, and it is so gross.

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Why do women do possibly risky things?

If you aren’t reading the Ask a Lady and Ask a Dude columns over at the Hairpin, you should spend the next few hours of your life catching up on the archives. Also, you should cheer when you read A Lady’s response to one of the questions this week:


I’m a guy living in a big Spring Break hot spot. During this time, one question always come up between my friends and I, why do women get into cars with strange guys? In my experience this isn’t rare and it isn’t limited to drunk college girls. So, whats up with that? It seems like a bad idea.

Spring Breeeaaak!!!!

What’s up with the fact that you and your friends probably also see women binge drinking, smoking cigarettes, blowing coke, eating Red #5, TANNING WITHOUT SUNSCREEN, and all sorts of other dumb things and aren’t at all phased? But when they pile limitlessly into cars with dudes they just met, you’re all, “Somebody save the womennn!” Or that you don’t think it’s a bad idea for the guys in this story to let strange women into their cars? Hmmm? You and your friends are very nice, and it’s very nice that you’re concerned, but also any place that can be described as “a big Spring Break hot spot” sounds like Bad Idea Town, Population : D so it’s interesting that you think the riding in cars with boys thing is a worse idea than all of the other things that probably go on, is all.

Since you’re basically asking why women sometimes do risky things, I guess the answer is because women are human. Girls just wanna have fun. Sometimes it’s fun to get in a car with a strange guy, ’cause cars are awesome, guys are cool, and strangers are exciting. And sometimes it’s a bad idea to get in a car with a strange guy, ’cause cars are dangerous, guys are jerks, and strangers are terrible. No real way of knowing, other than to trust your instincts. You’re way more likely to hear about the times a woman did something that turned out to be a bad idea, because Law & Order: It Worked Out doesn’t air 25 times a day, and the 10 o’clock news is never like, “Coming up after the break, another wanton slut gets her shit banged out vacation-style by a guy she met in the parking lot, describes the entire ordeal as ‘fucking incredible.'” Doesn’t mean those things don’t happen too. Not all men are predators on the hunt, and not all women are victims-in-waiting. Sometimes people are just people, tryna get they party on, you know? You know. Spring Breeeaaak!!!!

Yesssss.

One more reason to shop at J.Crew

They’re featuring “blatant propaganda celebrating transgendered children” and they support “liberal, transgendered identity politics.” I mean, check this out:

Image from J.Crew catalog of a mom with her son. The son's toenails are painted pink.

Horrifying. Here’s how the right-wing Media Research Council describes it:

J.CREW, a popular preppy woman’s clothing brand and favorite affordable line of first lady Michelle Obama, is targeting a new demographic – mothers of gender-confused young boys. At least, that’s the impression given by a new marketing piece that features blatant propaganda celebrating transgendered children.

An email sent to customers on Tuesday, April 5th contained a promotion for free shipping if the customer spends $150 or more. The email also contained a feature called ‘Jenna’s favorites,’ highlighting special selections by J.CREW designer Jenna Lyons. Jenna selected a striped long-sleeve t-shirt, and hot pink nail polish by Essie, modeled by her young son.

In the feature, Jenna is pictured with her adorable curly-haired son Beckett, and the two are seen giggling with Jenna holding Beckett’s feet, containing hot pink painted toe-nails. ‘Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink,’ read Jenna’s quote. ‘Toenail painting is way more fun in neon.’

Not only is Beckett likely to change his favorite color as early as tomorrow, Jenna’s indulgence (or encouragement) could make life hard for the boy in the future. J.CREW, known for its tasteful and modest clothing, apparently does not mind exploiting Beckett behind the façade of liberal, transgendered identity politics.

A boy playing with… nail polish?! What’s next? Is he going to talk in a high-pitched voice? Someone call Child Protective Services and get this kid sent to a home where he’ll be beaten with a rod if he even thinks about wearing those nautical stripes again, or so much as exhibits the tiniest hint of joy (happiness is for girls) (except girls who have opinions or personalities).

(Graphic and story via Jesus’ General).