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It’s Just a Joke?

Mary at Stone Court writes more on the “it’s just a joke” attitude.

Here’s the situation: the game had just been called because of lightning, yet the kids had been sent back out onto the field to gather up the equipment (bases, etc.). I was already in a somewhat annoyed state of mind over this (you’re calling off the game because it’s too dangerous for them to be out there, and then you–the adult coaches–send them back out in the lightning to pick up the bases? Pick them up yourselves, you lazy shits.) Anyhow, that wasn’t the problem, it’s just what had me in a certain frame of mind to begin with. So some of the kids were struggling with lifting third base, which was stuck, and I assume (I wasn’t watching as this part happened) one of the girls on the team tried her hand at it and was successful.

At this point, an adult man on the sidelines — I assume he was a parent but I know nothing about this person — shouted to the boys who were in the group, “What, are you gonna let a girl do it when you can’t?”

A verbal argument ensues and Mary leaves the field feeling as though she was unable to articulate her feelings as she should have.

I had a somewhat similar experience last night.

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Take a Quiz Because I’m Busy

This is, more or less, complete and total crap.

Your Birthdate: February 18
Your birthday on the 18th day of the month suggests than you are one who can work well with a group, but still remain someone who needs to maintain individual identity.

There is a humanistic or philanthropic approach to business circumstances in which you find yourself.

You may have good executive abilities, as you are very much the organizer and administrator.

You are broad-minded, tolerant and generous; a compassionate person that can inspire others with imaginative ideas.

Some of your feelings may be expressed, but even more of them are apt to be repressed.

There is a lot of drama in your personality and in the way you express yourself to others.

Oddly enough, you don’t expect as much in return as you give.

Especially the part about organization.

via Dr. B.

About Jill

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Jill is a 20-something Seattle native turned New Yorker. She graduated from New York University with a BA in Journalism and Politics and a minor in Gender and Sexuality Studies. At NYU, she served as opinion editor of the Washington Square News, where she wrote a weekly column on feminist issues, reproductive rights and other lefty stuff. She is now in law school at NYU , and hopes to eventually pursue a career in international human rights, focusing on reproductive health and access to family planning tools.

In addition to blogging at Feministe, Jill also writes for the Huffington Post and Ms. JD. Her work has appeared in the Yale Journal of Law and Feminism, Alternet, Women’s eNews, and the NYU School of Law Alumni Magazine. Her stories have been picked up by the LA Times, the Chicago Sun-Times, the National Organization for Women, Women for Humanity, the Alliance for Microbicide Development, and the National Adoption Foundation. She has served as an editor at the Washington Square News, the New York University Review of Law and Social Change, and the NYU School of Law Alumni Magazine.

She loves to travel, has lived in Italy twice (Florence and Sardinia), and spent the past summer living and working in Greece, in a small town outside of Athens. She is currently studying in Hamburg, Germany. She has a slight obsession with Tom Robbins books (highly recommended: “Skinny Legs and All”) and Burt’s Beeswax chapstick, and is addicted to NPR, the New Yorker and the New York Times. Her favorite indulgences include red red wine, sushi, a good cappuccino, and lingerie she can’t afford. You can get a glimpse of her not-so-glamorous New York life and her international adventures here, or you can just buy her presents. She loves presents. Someday she will live in Paris.

Her dislikes include Everybody Loves Raymond, network news, Tucker Carlson and other bow-tied right-wing pundits, Aerosmith, bad puns, California rolls, people who refer to themselves in the third person, and the smell of baby powder. She really, really hates donuts. And she is thrilled to be blogging at Feministe.

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I’m Shaving My Head

My hair is so thick it takes five to six hours to dry. Even a full day after a morning shower, I have a damp spot on the back of my head.

I freshened up tonight before attending Ethan’s Hawaiian-themed spring program and come home to find that my hair is still not only damp after having blow-dried it, but that it’s so thick I couldn’t get all the conditioner off of my scalp.

The only thing holding me back from shaving my head (again) is vanity. I happen to like my damned hair, but goddamn if it isn’t a pain in the ass.

And this is where I leave the office to take yet another shower…

Stoked

I’ve invited another person to come and blog with me permanently. I don’t know when she’ll get her first post up, but I’ll leave it up to her to introduce herself. Mysterious, no?

And me? I’m really, really excited.

Guilt-Free Download

I love Iron & Wine, composed of one solitary man named Sam Beam. He makes quiet, understated folk-blues porch rock music: slinky, sensual, lovely.

If memory serves me correctly (alas, my internet connection does not love me and will not let me confirm this information) Beam also doubles as a film professor in Florida. His catalog reflects this with his mature and mysterious music that references great literature and mythologies.

Iron & Wine – Woman King
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HR Blog Has Arrived

I’m sure you know that the Huffington Report blog is in action, and is already an enjoyable read.

But today, the Huffington Report has arrived. How do I know? Richard Bradley writes:

Where Are the Women?

No, this isn’t a plea for a date.

I was merely scrolling down the page reading people’s posts when I noticed a certain gender imbalance. (I just wrote a book about Larry Summers, so the issue’s on my mind.)

25 posts as of this writing. 22 men, 3 women.

What’s up with that? Anyone?

Oh, honey. I’m not dipping a toe into this one.

Link Dump Du Jour

These weekly round-ups are now listed in the category Recommended Reading. The previous category name (Elsewhere) was far too vague.

Feminism
Ampersand discusses Blackmun, Ginsburg and Roe v Wade and Harry Blackmun’s unexpected ascent into a feminist icon.

Alley Rat is damned weary of a few things, namely Rape as a Weapon and Street Harassment.

Utopian Hell looks at the gaze in advertising and how images of female sexuality work when targeting women and men. They aren’t so different, and that is what is disappointing.

Amanda’s final section of her five-part explanation of the Men’s Rights Movement. Brilliant stuff.

Politics
TalkLeft points us to an article on the $100 million dollars “missing” in Iraq. Missing?

Clarissa, new poster at XX, writes about women in combat.

Religion
Blondesense presents The Week In God.

DED Space expresses some compassion for Pat Robertson. Sort of.

TOAAW: The religious wingnuts appear to be in full bloom.

Blogs
Apparently Dave Sifry is a fucktard.

Humor
Chuck exposes some ingenious marketing by a credit card company. I’ve seen this envelope in person and it’s unreal.

Humanity
Kim longs for sexy shoes while pregnant with twins. I strongly identify with this — when I was pregnant I fantasized about clothing. My object of lust was a red corduroy coat. I found one about two years after Ethan was born and I shelled out an ungodly amount of money to have it (bonus points for finding it at a locally owned store). After fantasizing over something for so long, you can’t just pass it up.

Chaos Theory points us to “The Race Game:”

As an adolescent in Shaker Heights, I tried to plot some middle ground between excelling like the white kids and being accepted — or at least left alone — by the black kids. At that time, there was no such Promised Land. So I conceived of my survival as a game: the Race Game. You pick up a card, a behavior or circumstance is described, you have to guess the race of the individuals involved. Sometimes I played for fun; sometimes I played as if my life depended upon it. White people often refer to the “race card,” the excuse that blacks supposedly hold at the ready to explain away our failures. But for my generation, the first to embark upon the brave new world of integration, the Race Game was much more complex: an obstacle course, as intricate as chess, more exhausting than Monopoly.

Playing the game, I used my experience to guess not just who was what but how those people might think, feel, react. To hear the silent subtext, anticipate the racial insult that comes seemingly out of nowhere to hijack you, hold you back, put you in your place. Sometimes I still find myself playing it, though I also long for what is instinctive to my children: the freedom to take someone, anyone, at face value.

One day, in junior high school, I hear a group of students enter the school library — cursing, bellowing, cackling — and I don’t even have to peek between the stacks to know: They are black. They won’t linger here, but while they do, I stay hidden.

Years later, in my thirties, I am in a boutique on the Upper East Side of New York, and the well-heeled shop ladies are discussing some missing stock: ankle bracelets, cute erasers, kitschy stuff. I bristle, expecting an accusation. The owner senses this and explains with an indulgent laugh, “This time of year the girls from such-and-so academy come in and take things, a springtime ritual of the senior class.” I don’t have to wonder: These girls are white and rich. The offense that I had anticipated did not come, and the owner knew to explain the situation: move ahead one step. But because these girls are privileged and white, their crime will be dismissed as a prank: move one step back.

Whiteness Visible: An article at Alternet covering a new book that interrogates the concept of whiteness. Also gives props to Spike Lee’s Bamboozled which, for all its faults, is one of the better socially-conscious movies I’ve seen in a long while.

Doug, Surfer Kitty

Perhaps Kim’s analogy of Doug as a surfer dude was more apt than she expected. Note the red-rimmed eyes, the lack of motivation, the longing for Cheetos and Mountain Dew, the willingness to support international terrorism.

Or perhaps he isn’t photogenic.