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Category: Domestic Violence

Assault and abuse survivors are just “distractions” in South Carolina

Last Thursday, South Carolina Governor Nikki Haley submitted a package of 81 vetoes from the 2012-2013 state budget. Among them: nearly half a million dollars for the SC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault (SCCADVAS), which (along with the other blocked earmarks) represents “only a small portion” of the affected population and “distracts” from the mission of protecting public health. Haley extends her “sympathy and encouragement.”

When Feminists Face Abuse

“I want to make you happy”. That’s what he used to tell me sometimes after another rage fit of his. And for almost two years I believed that. I believed that even after he slapped me for the first time, taking a swing at my upper arm. I stopped believing it after the second slap, the one that landed on my back (luckily, not with full force).

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

And with all the coverage of Rihanna / Chris Brown (which I will write about later, but ugh, can we please stop blaming her for “being a bad role model” or whatever and maybe put the responsibility for beating another human being on the person who did the beating?), it’s a pertinent conversation. The stats are disturbing:

The Shit List

So a commenter in the Chris Brown thread just pointed out that Janet Jackson was apparently banned from the Grammys a few years ago because of her nip slip at the Super Bowl. Two which my response is twofold: (1) What the holy fuck; and (2) Aren’t you SO GLAD that the term “nip slip” has left the general lexicon? Me too.

Chris Brown won’t let us forget: Domestic violence is okay if you’re hot

Trigger warning for domestic violence

Sasha Pasulka of HelloGiggles said it best: “I’m not okay with Chris Brown performing at the Grammys and I’m not sure why you are.” She points out that the popular response to Chris Brown’s beating of Rihanna was beyond disappointing, with fans and celebrities alike falling back on “No one knows exactly what happened” and “It takes two to tango” and “He’s such a great guy; he never would have done something like that unprovoked.” Jump forward three years, he was invited to perform at the Grammys (because the music industry appears to be okay with it). Because, says Grammys producer Ken Erlich, people deserve a second chance. And he hasn’t performed at the Grammys for two whole years now. And “we were the victim of what happened.”

But that was last night. That was Hollywood’s reaction. This morning, it’s the fans’ reaction, which appears to be: Chris Brown is so hot, it would be okay if he beat me.

It would be awesome if he beat me.

Examples hidden behind the jump, because seriously, triggering. I just can’t.