Make it this at What About Our Daughters. Jovan Belcher killed his girlfriend and then himself; she did not bring that on herself by going to a concert. She was not, as published in Deadspin, a “catalyst” to her own death (also, it’s apparently now totally cool and responsible to publish anonymous, unsubstantiated hit pieces on murder victims penned by the murder’s friends. Because “context,” or something).
As What About Our Daughters points out, “According to the CDC, black women have a maternal homicide risk about seven times that of white women. Black women ages 25-29 are about 11 times more likely as white women in that age group to be murdered while pregnant or in the year after childbirth.”
Belcher, for those who haven’t followed the case, was a professional football player with the Kansas City Chiefs. He and Perkins had a three-month-old daughter, Zoey. Belcher shot Perkins nine times, then drove to football practice where he thanked his coach for the support and opportunities before shooting himself.
The New York Times quotes many of Belcher’s friends lauding him as “A good, loving father, a family man.”
We’re reading a lot about how this was a tragedy… for the Kansas City Chiefs. And for football fans.
Belcher’s teammates emphasize that if you’re dad, it’s ok to have guns int he house because you need to protect your kids. I don’t know the context of this particular quote, but it seems… unfortunate… given the context of Perkins’ murder:
“If you have daughters, you should (have a gun),” Chiefs defensive lineman Shaun Smith said Monday. “You have to protect yourself. You work so hard to get to where you at, I’ll be damned if I’ll just let someone take it from me.”
And here’s what Chiefs’ head coach Romeo Crennel had to say about the tragedy:
“Jovan is a member of our family. What he did we didn’t like, We’re not crazy about,” Crennel said. “When you go out in society, you don’t see people throwing family member out the door. They’re still loved.”
We’re not crazy about the fact that he killed his girlfriend, but hey, HE’S FAMILY and we still love that clown! Right?
Belcher’s family also cautions against speculating about relationship violence. I mean really, everyone, let’s not speculate that this was a violent relationship! All we know is that he killed her by shooting her nine times. Given these limited facts, who are we to say that he was violent?
Kasandra Perkins, on the other hand, had the nerve to go to a concert and not come home until 1 in the morning. And, according to the Deadspin hit piece, she wasn’t doing well in school and quit her job — three months after giving birth, that lazy lazy woman. Clearly she was just after Belcher’s money. And then she had the nerve to take his kid away from him! HIS KID. Who he loved. And yes sure even according to the friend who took to Gawker media to malign a dead woman, Belcher had substance abuse problems and “drank ALOT. On a nightly basis,” but Perkins was the irresponsible party for removing her child from that situation. She should have definitely stayed in the home of someone violent enough to eventually kill her.
I can’t even really finish this post, because I’m so disgusted and angry. Read What About Our Daughters. Read these domestic violence facts. And while it is indeed crucial to talk about the impact of concussions and trauma on football players, it’s also crucial to talk about what this actually was: Male violence against women they claim to “love.” Violence that fits the well-known pattern of occurring during or soon after pregnancy, and escalates when the abused partner tries to leave. Violence that is justified by a media that acts “shocked” that such a fine “family man” could kill the mother of his child, and looks for any reason — brain injury! she went to a concert! she took his kid away! — to shift blame.
I can’t. Read this:
So in closing, because I can never say this enough, the person responsible for Kasandra Perkin’s death is Jovan Belcher. There was nothing Miss Perkins could have done to cause Mr. Belcher to murder her in cold blood. He pulled the trigger the 1st, 2nd, 3rd,4th,5th,6th,7th,8th, and 9th time he shot her.