In honor of Mother’s Day… my response to Christy Turlington’s call for “No Mother’s Day.” http://guerrillamom.blogspot.com/2012/05/no-mothers-day-worst-idea-ever.html
Just one post this week, but it’s a story about a guy who gaslights and harasses me in hopes of getting a date. Enjoy!
On sexual harassment: ‘Sexual harassment is not an expression of attraction, it is an exercise of power.’ Seeking justice, seeking history: Justice starts with you and it starts with me and it starts with knowing history. And a collection of blog post links on how we relate to each other, poetry and gift giving and violence and more.
I wanted to do something better for Mothers Day this year. On another note, President Obama issued a waiver releasing funds to the Palestinian Authority for security. It started a red-state uproar. But was he really flouting the Constitution? I weighed in. Finally, I am so friggin’ sick of people comparing our President to Hitler!
I’ve been writing about my divorce in relation to my feminism: “sometimes it lasts in love and sometimes it hurts instead“
Life experiments: A skeptical scientist does a juice cleanse. Day 2:The Juicening I have pictures of what I’m doing. And giving up caffeine?
This summer, I’m doing an independent study project on Catholic, Protestant, and Orthodox perspectives on Paul, so I wrote about why that interests me, what questions I have, and a preliminary reading list. I’m looking for conversation partners, especially from the Protestant and Orthodox traditions. Aside from that, I mainly engaged with material posted on other blogs, writing a bit on the value of the term “mainline” to describe a certain set of Protestant churches, and a bit on gender and the Trinity, with a quote I especially like by feminist theologian Sarah Coakley.
I went on a long overdue rant about the right’s incessant hypocrisy around abortion and reproductive rights.
It feels wrong posting this on Mother’s Day, but earlier this week I wrote a short post about the myth of the selfish childfree woman. And just for fun, I’m doing the Music Diary Project again this year.
It feels wrong posting this on Mother’s Day, but earlier this week I wrote a short post about the myth of the selfish childfree woman. And just for fun, I’m doing the Music Diary Project again this year.
At Planned Parenthood Advocates of Arizona’s blog, we posted a book review of “A Queer History of the United States.” I haven’t read the book myself, but the review summarizes some of the main points of the book, which include really interesting perspectives on how LGBTQ history is connected with so many other aspects of U.S. history. We also posted our bi-weekly pro-choice news rundown, which weaves a narrative from recent headlines — the good news, the bad news, the interesting news. Also, in honor of Mother’s Day, an oldie but goodie: one of our volunteers tells her story, in which she transitions from an anti-choice teenager to a pro-choice adult and, now, mother.
After a bit of a lull, I seem to have had a burst of blogivity. An item I saw about a smart phone with an app that lets people “touch” each other prompted one post about communication. Then I decided to weigh in on the Hillary Clinton “controversy.” I don’t think it’s simple. I thought I had retired from playing rock music about 25 years ago, but involvement with Girls Rock Camp and Ladies Rock Camp changed that. Now I am in a band again, which just happens to be made up entirely of women. If anyone is curious, here are a couple of videos from our debut. And finally, on Mother’s Day how could I not write about my mother?
Looking for some people to write guest posts on my blog about travel — preferably from a feminist/queer perspective! http://www.theepicadventurer.com/p/submission-guidelines.html
This week at Yes Means Yes Blog: There’s A War On Part 6: Anti-Sunshine League, about transparency and its importance to reducing rape and abuse in BDSM communities, especially the ability of survivors to name names. Fetlife in particular has become the overwhelming online organ of discussion in BDSM communities, but its policies specifically prohibit survivors from naming their rapists. This part occasioned a protracted argument between me and some of my supporters, on the one hand, and Janet W. Hardy, co-author of The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book. After someone compared calls to transparency to a witch hunt (I’ve heard that a few times), I wrote a follow-up called What A Witch Hunt Actually Is, about the ahistorical use of the term.
I wrote about Swimsuits & Boobs, particularly about my frustration that fashion articles that advertise “something for every body” pretty much ignore mine. I’m also starting an asana series on the hips, which tends to be useful for people who run, people who cycle, people who sit, and/or people with chronic pelvic issues. Right now, I’m focusing on hip flexor anatomy. The Mask — On make up, beauty standards, and covering up chronic pain. And of course, who doesn’t love a good vegetarian vampire story?
This week I wrote about my thoughts on The Avengers and also a contemplation about the nature of story sharing in the “Who Needs Feminism?” movement.
Anna from The Feminist Librarian s contributed to The Last Name Project on how she and her partner Hanna created a joint middle name when tying the knot. I wrote about the departure from sexist language such as “mademoiselle” in France and other countries and continued gender dynamics in the U.S. between Miss, Mrs. and Ms. Libby Anne of Loy, Joy, Feminism, one of my favorite blogs, contributed to The Last Name Project an explained why she took her husband’s name when getting married. I wrote how it takes two to become one in a relationship like marriage despite the popular cultural belief that someone else will complete you.
What happens when our “feminist” workplaces become toxic work environments? Chantal discusses the issue in “Disgruntled Feminist Workers of the World Unite!” Plus, Amy unpacks the 20-week abortion bans.
What happens when our “feminist” workplaces become toxic? Chantal explains in “Disgruntled Feminist Workers of the World Unite!” Plus, Amy unpacks the 20-week abortion bans and explains how they vary state-to-state…and how some pro-choicers got it wrong.
Stuff I’ve written lately: Religion is and isn’t special: On whether or not, and why or why not, religion is a separate category of thought and behavior that deserves a particular consideration and/or deference The squeaky wheel will never be trusted…or something: On the treatment of “quiet atheists” in the most recent issue of Psychology Today, and why it’s rather ridiculous From the wayback machine: A reprint of something I wrote for my high school newspaper on coming out as a gay teenager…in 1994, in Wichita, Kansas.
Alice Randall touches the third rail with her essay, ‘Black Women and Fat’, but there’s much more than personal behavior here… Race, Obesity and Willpower
This week: Notes on my relationship with my mother for Mother’s Day, inspiration from Dar Williams. Math stigma and why it isn’t okay. Lena Dunham speaks – evaluating representation and lived experience on television.
“… the ease and flippancy of our new strategies has allowed a kind of laziness and opportunism to enter political discourse (I suppose these things are not new, did not start with social media). There comes a point when activism and struggles of social justice becomes chic and part of a larger project in self-image creation.” I talk about Boutique Politics in my post called “Boutique Multiculturalism”
I have an update on the campaign against Kraft’s MilkBite ads that use the tragic mulatto myth to sell granola bars. In honor of Mother’s Day, a look at songs that celebrate mothers who balance multiple roles. “Haters Gonna Hate (And That’s a Good Thing)“–A look at the silver lining of cruel online comments. “Do What You Love, Love What You Do“– Since it’s the end of another semester, I share my number one piece of advice for frustrated students. Susanna Leonard shared a guest post on losing perspective and how to start getting it back.
I wrote about the Time magazine cover and Attachment Parenting article in A Mother’s Day Rant. Basically, I’m sick of the most extreme members of a group being used as the poster children for that group, and I’m even more tired of motherhood being a competitive sport. Let’s all just keep our judgie tendencies to ourselves, hmmm?
You know those pop-ups advertising Eastern Women who are “Very Attracted to Western Men”? I wrote a post about them. More specifically, I wrote a letter to my future Russian Wife. Hilarity ensues. Or doesn’t, as the case may be.
Female Vampires: Children, Villains or Servants: Male vampires are far more common than female vampires and when they do occur they too often fall into some very sexist tropes. Cover Snark: And 2 Seconds Later, Our Heroine Fell Over : Looking at the ridiculous positions female protagonists are placed in on book covers. Face Off: Worst Friend in Urban Fantasy : In this weeks face off we try to determine between three urban fantasy protagonists who is actually the worst friend. Review: Deadlocked by Charlaine Harris, Book 12 of the Sookie Stackhouse Series: The latest sookie stackhouse book has been released and of course we have a few thoughts on it.
Our week at MMW: Eren wrote about the Chechen president, Ramzan Kadyrov, and the ways that his attempts to make Chechnya more “Islamic” have impacted women. Nicole reviewed Rughum & Najda, a new novel by historian Samar Habib, about a love story between two women in ninth-century Baghdad. Sana wrote about a recent “human rights conference” in the U.S., where Muslim women were talked about as victims, but were kept from actually attending the conference.
8 tips for discussing challenging global issues with your child: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2012/05/8-tips-for-discussing-challenging.html 8 tips for reducing food waste: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2012/05/8-tips-for-reducing-food-waste.html 7 questions to ask at your farmers’ market to help you choose foods that do more good & less harm: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2012/05/7-questions-to-ask-at-your-farmers.html
This week I wrote about the life-changing implications of street harassment: http://disciplineandanarchy.wordpress.com/2012/05/12/the-drop-in-the-ocean-or-the-drop-that-wears-away-the-stone-street-harassment/
In honor of Mother’s Day, here’s a posting about how it isn’t the fact of being a mother that sometimes makes problems for women in the workplace, but rather stereotypes about motherhood. The motherhood penalty: It’s not children that slow mothers down. http://curt-rice.com/2011/12/08/the-motherhood-penalty-its-not-children-that-slow-mothers-down/ It starts like this: There are fewer women at the top because they have a different work/life balance than men, it is claimed. Mothers’ careers progress slowly because they are mothers — because they have to spend more time on their children. There’s some appeal in this explanation; it seems intuitively correct. Mothers have greater childcare responsibilities than fathers. And while we may hope for a different division of labor some day, we speculate that these work/life realities explain why women who are mothers are on slower career tracks than men. It’s the realities of daily life behind the statistics that in fact explain the statistics. Correlation becomes causation. But that’s a mistake in how we think. There’s more to the story.
Ethical alternatives to being an ally: Second thoughts Having seen some more conversations around ally behaviour, and done some more ally-ing and been allied-to some more, I’ve had a few more thoughts on how to navigate this area. I’ve realised that my original article missed a crucial dimension of what it means to act as an ally: power.
This week on Douche, Bag and Shoes: Femininity and the moderation of emotion. ‘The Crying Game’: http://douchebagandshoes.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/crying-game.html UK tabloid, The Sun, weighs in on the Hillary Clinton wears no make up ‘controversy’: http://douchebagandshoes.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/lorraine-kelly-does-politics.html As the English football season draws to a close, we look at the gender politics of being a female football fan: http://douchebagandshoes.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/feminism-and-football.html
I was hired by the very woman featured in this piece to write about the latest piece of her life. Much of it is true. The rest of it COULD be true. The short of it: An octogenarian woman, struggling to make ends meet in her Berkeley, California home, is unduly harassed by an attorney couple in the house next door, and enlists the aid of family, friends, and her community, to expose and expel The Neighbors from Hell. Inspired by actual unconscionable events.
Ah! I neglected to add the Smashwords link after the description: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/149218
This week: Blogging as creating safe spaces and the responsibility I’ve realised I have not only to make my blog a safe place for myself, but for others as well.
Two music posts: Breaking: Beth Ditto Is Fat [and she sings, too], a post on supposed “reviews” of Gossip’s new (and eighth!) album, that basically still boil down to fat-shaming and the exoticization of fat women in public. fTunes: yet another (incomplete) list of favorite feminist songs.
Strip for This is my personal blog about stripping, anarchism, feminism, sex, etc. Second Night at Crazy Horse, Myrtle Beach. All the porn and piss I promised y’all last time. Other than that, a pretty lackluster night.
DONT-FLINCH.COM My blog of my photography and poetry work but SOON also my blog of commentary and criticism of feminist ideas and such. I’m excited. Other feminist bloggers should contact me, I would love to collaborate and link to your posts and such! Kait
For fun, I wrote “The Gritty, Coming-Of-Age Short Story Plot Generator For Male Writers:” http://spaceshipnola.blogspot.com/2012/05/gritty-coming-of-age-short-story-plot.html
I wrote an open letter to a former (and now prohibitionist) sex worker, which felt like an interesting exercise in genuinely trying to sympathetically engage with a very different opinion.
Kiss My Wonder Woman: This week we covered the women of Lord of the Rings, a quick view of Don’t Trust the B* in Apartment 23, the Smurfette Principle, cross-dressing comedies, and Avengers musings. Coming up this week, which female superheroes deserve their own franchises, an ode to Susie Derkins from Calvin and Hobbes and more!
The intersection of biphobia, homophobia, and “positive pressure”, when things don’t work out in our relationships. http://silenceendshere.wordpress.com/2012/05/01/relationships-when-things-dont-work-out/
To Debbi in # 48, regarding her blog post about “cross-dressing comedies.” I would have posted this at your blog, but don’t think I have any of the accounts that I would need to do so: I agree with you that all or most such comedies are creepy and awful and insulting in all sorts of ways, but I do think that perhaps you should consider more carefully the implications of saying things like “It takes a lifetime to build up the kind of experiences that most women can refer to casually.”
This week I took a bit of a lighthearted look at Prince’s ‘Kiss’ because he’s in Australia this month. http://canbebitter.wordpress.com/2012/05/15/spending-some-extra-time-with-princes-kiss/
Are geeks oppressed? (No, but it’s more complicated than that.) http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/geek-pride-and-social-justice/ The development of RISUG, an effective birth control for men, http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2012/05/09/possible-male-birth-control/ Will new laws end up banning sex offenders from the Internet? http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2012/05/13/sex-offenders-banned-from-internet/
I wrote about my experience (as an abortion clinic staff member) of dealing with anti-choice women who are seeking an abortion for themselves.
Lauren is on the road with her girls, and wrote about trying to figure out where home is and whether place and identity are as deeply connected as we imagine them to be. Jen wrote about how she figured out what she wanted to do with her life after she quit grad school, and how she learned to figure out what she was actually good at and talk about those skills in interviews. Lauren also paid tribute to children’s author Maurice Sendak, and Jen updated her post about her daughter’s fear of riding a bike.
SWEFA Beltane 2012 Review is a summary of my weekend at the local Beltane festival, a celebration of sacred sexuality, fires, passion, and small-batch mead making. J is for Juniper describes a near-fatal crash in Utah, a life-saving tree, and magik, of course, as my Pagan Blog Project offering.
How long from Fringe to Mainstream? I talk about my experiences with the pro-life and quiverfull movements in the 80s and how they are the default position now, and wonder whether fringe ideas move faster now, and what ones will be default in 20 years.
Sorry to be late, but I knew you would all enjoy this one: Anti-feminists defend John Edwards, sex machine and role model http://daisysdeadair.blogspot.com/2012/05/anti-feminists-defend-john-edwards-sex.html
Why empathy is important in leadership and why Romney would be a terrible president: http://brutereason.net/2012/05/14/empathy-and-leadership-why-romney-would-be-a-terrible-president/ The son of Tom Hanks, who attends my university, thinks kids who get bullied and commit suicide are “weak”: http://brutereason.net/2012/05/09/chet-hanks-victim-blaming-and-the-weakness-of-suicide/