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Victims’ Advocates “Schooled in Man-Hating”

Sexual assault, sexual harassment and domestic abuse are pervasive problems in the U.S. military. Commendably, the Pentagon is taking action by requesting policy recommendations from Wellesley College’s Centers for Women.

The Pentagon awarded the grant earlier this year to come up with ways to implement a central Office of the Victim’s Advocate. It would augment similar programs in the different service branches to assist women who face the type of abuse that took place at the Air Force Academy last year, and has been alleged in other branches through the years.

Seems reasonable enough to me, especially considering that 28 percent of female veterans reported sexual assault during their military careers. But the usual suspects are all up in arms:

‘Implementation of a self- interested Wellesley proposal could create a new job market for women’s studies graduates schooled in man-hating ideology,” says Elaine Donnelly, president of the conservative Center for Military Readiness, which has opposed gays in the military and women serving in combat roles.

”Sexual assault is always wrong and should be punished promptly at the local level,” Donnelly said. However, a victim’s advocate ”would operate as an office of male bashing that would nuclearize the war between the sexes.”

Yes, I fondly remember my Gender Studies 101 Class: Experiments in Man-Hating. The final exam involved clipping the balls off of male paper dolls.

I’m also not sure how a victim’s advocate — which advocates for male and female victims — would be “an office of male-bashing.” Going after rapists — even if most rapists are men — isn’t male-bashing; it’s rapist-bashing.

Conservative activist Phyllis Schlafly has also attacked the plan in interviews and on her website.

”Wellesley is doubly bad because it is completely feminist,” Schlafly said in an interview. ”The whole thing is a taxpayer-funded operation to establish the notion that men are natural batterers and women are victims and women are always right and men are always wrong.”

Ah. So what is this big man-hating project really about?

The $50,000 Pentagon grant asked the Wellesley Centers for Women, a combination of two of the college’s study arms, to ”provide background analysis on the current state of victim advocacy services in both the military and civilian sectors of the Department of Defense,” according to a description on the centers’ website. The analysis, it said, was to include an ”assessment of the options” for establishing the victim’s advocate office.

Well I for one am outraged. Outraged.

But my favorite part is this:

Schlafly said the victim’s advocate proposal ”would provide money to give additional one- sided help to the women to structure her complaints and have free legal advice,” she said.

”The poor guy has to go down the road and find some lawyer who is brave enough to defend him and pay for it.”

It’s always “the poor guy,” right? So what of the fact that sexual assault in the military, just like in the civilian population, actually happens? That the assumption that every rape survivor is lying about her assault is far more blind to reality — and far less likely to even be right — than the assumption that every man accused of rape is guilty (obviously, both assumptions are pretty stupid). And then there’s the fact that men can bring complaints, too. And that men are raped, too, even if it’s less common than women being raped.

Of course, the picture she paints of a poor guy having to go get a two-bit lawyer to represent him is just ridiculous. The military takes pretty good care of its own, and they like to keep their dirty laundry out of sight; after an allegation of sexual assault, a soldier will not simply be tossed out on the street and left to fend for himself. And, sorry, but there aren’t exactly a shortage of lawyers willing to defend accused rapists.

Bottom line: It’s ridiculous to get bent out of shape because women’s rights advocates — the very people who established the first rape crisis centers, who study sexual assault for a career, and who brought the issue of sexual assault to the forefront — are asked for their opinion on how the Pentagon deals with sexual assault. Ask the people who know. It’s common sense.


12 thoughts on Victims’ Advocates “Schooled in Man-Hating”

  1. ‘’The poor guy has to go down the road and find some lawyer who is brave enough to defend him and pay for it.”

    Oh, fer.

    It’s called the JAG CORPS.

    I’m sure these idiots are well aware that there already exist Office of Victim Advocates in the various branches of the services, but bring up feminists and maybe they’ll be able to get enough people outraged that they can stop the Pentagon from creating a centralized office.

    My sister had to call the victim advocate several times during her marriage to a Marine who couldn’t deal with her son’s autism. She was stuck and couldn’t go anywhere (and she was in a better position than a lot of enlisted Marine wives, since she has a college education and had a house from a previous marriage she could go to, if she could just hang on until the tenant’s lease was up. A lot of the wives were very young, with few skills, and were far away from their families). Had she not had the ability to have the victim advocate contact his command and have him removed from the home (and, I may add, put into the barracks — he wasn’t thrown into the street, given that the Marines owned his ass), she would have very, very few recourses. She was exhausted enough from trying to get the DoD school to provide a basic level of services to her son.

    It would be very good for the Pentagon to standardize these things, though, since the different branches of the service treat families wildly differently. The same sister had been married to a submariner 12 years ago when there was a fire in their base housing while he was out to sea. The Navy refused to deal with her because the power of attorney had gone up in the fire, and she was accused of setting the fire and stonewalled. At least until she got Sen. Inouye’s office involved, and suddenly, she was in new housing, her husband was on his way home and the commandant was complaining that she’d gone over his head. At the same time, my brother was a company commander in the Army, and something similar had happened to one of their families, but they took care of them.

  2. This something I just can’t get my brain around. Anti-feminists are always pissed that feminists are the ones doing work around rape and domestic violence, they claim that anyone doing such work is an evil man hating whatever. But I have never seen a conservative person do anti-rape or anti-DV work. If they think that we are fucking it up so badly, why don’t they start their own organizations? Why don’t they get involved at shelters and hotlines and victiems advocacy groups? They can start their own canon of theory about hte subject. Wouldn’t that solve the problem of the evil feminists/feminism?

    It just seems like they want to bitch and moan, but I don’t see them working in these areas. At all.

  3. What is the bug these people have up their asses about Wellesley?

    Apparently, based on what I read about the college on the right:
    a) The conservative students on campus don’t exist (news to them, I’m sure).
    b) Wild lesbian orgies are the order of the day (though they must have taken a four year hiatus while I was there).
    c) Man hating is the main competitive sport on campus – which is of course why Wellesley runs a regular bus out to Boston, just so they can go hate men in their natural environment, right? This also explains why of the women I have kept track of from school every single one has gotten married and only one has been divorced.
    d) They are a useless anachronism that serves no purpose except as something to point to when the right wants to justify a men’s only college.

    Feh.

  4. Well, Sarah, someone kindly pointed out to me the other day that crisis centers and battered women’s shelters are really just fronts for the radical feminist agenda, so maybe that’s it? When you add in the “the real problem is women trying to manipulate men by falsely accusing them of rape” and “extra support for victims is sexist!” then maybe it all comes together? One does wonder…

  5. Apparently these nutbags also do not believe there are any male rape victims. Because helping a man who has been raped by another man would be…man-hating!

  6. Sarah, of course the right whine about how we’re doing DV/rape survivor support all wrong, but never step up to do it the “right” way.

    Why should they do any different than they have on education, pollution or raising people out of poverty?

  7. I used to work at a counseling center that primarily served rape and DV victims. Unfortunately, it was taken over by conservatives, who felt we were “coddling” the clients by not terminating therapy because of missed sessions (client was too traumatized to remember what day it was), conducting (unbillable) telephone sessions when the client was too traumatized or frightened to leave her home, etc.

    Eventually, the emphasis on the bottom line drove out most of the caring staff, and now, by all reports, they have what they want–a Medicaid mill that’s about as helpful as any government bureaucracy. Be careful what you wish for.

  8. “‘Implementation of a self- interested Wellesley proposal could create a new job market for women’s studies graduates schooled in man-hating ideology,’ says Elaine Donnelly, president of the conservative Center for Military Readiness”

    Speaking of man hating…shouldn’t E. Donnelly stop her man hating and step down as president of Center for Military Readiness. I mean what the hell does a woman know about military readiness. Is she married? Some real man needs to marry her and knock her up or knock her up again if she is married and has kids. She obviously has too much time on her hands. Get her under control. Who does she think she is?

  9. Yes, I fondly remember my Gender Studies 101 Class: Experiments in Man-Hating. The final exam involved clipping the balls off of male paper dolls.

    Ah yes, i too perfected this exercise during my years in college. Actually my feminist theory professor suggested we boycott the Women’s Studies progam until it was renamed Man-Hating Studies.

    I used to work at a counseling center that primarily served rape and DV victims. Unfortunately, it was taken over by conservatives, who felt we were “coddling” the clients by not terminating therapy because of missed sessions (client was too traumatized to remember what day it was), conducting (unbillable) telephone sessions when the client was too traumatized or frightened to leave her home, etc.

    This excellent proof that the only agenda Phyllis Schafley and other anti-feminists have is to make money off of poor housewives. Then they say that its the Feminists who are ruining it for these women. In the mean time she runs off and enjoys her riches surrounded by the comfort of the rest of her elite circle of wealthy anti-feminists laughing all the way. Now that woman is the fucking devil I tell ya!

  10. God, Elaine Donnelly.She’s either Schlafly’s daughter in law or protge, but she’s just as dishonest and asinine. Her concept of military readiness? A straight-male only miliary. Why? Same agenda as Schlafly—-if some women are equal and pull their own weight, what are parasites like her going to do for a living? Actually work? The horror!

  11. “that would nuclearize the war between the sexes.”

    Yes, victim advocacy is a nuclear weapon. Rape its self? just a pen knife, or a can of pepper spray in comparison.

  12. crisis centers and battered women’s shelters are really just fronts for the radical feminist agenda

    A lot of people , seems to have a problem with the idea that good intentions can be behind (what they see as) bad results.

    One can acknowledge the innate human goodness of those who work with rape and DV victims while believing that some particular approaches are counter-productive and harmful.

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