The Awl ran a piece today about inquiries they get for submission, noting the difference between emails they receive from men and from women:
The emails from men are pretty direct. The emails from women are often kind of… apologetic!
Inquiry letter from a man:
“Do you take pitches? Should I just write something and send it? Do I have to tickle the balls? I want to write for the awl, dammit.”
Inquiry letter from a woman:
“As an long-time admirer of your site (and non-too-frequent registered commenter), I’ve been too shy to pitch as I’ve never felt like my work measured up to your fine standards.”
Inquiry letter from a man:
“Can you offer a word of advice regarding how submissions work, desired timetables, what you like the pitches to look like, and so forth?”
Inquiry letter from a woman:
“I’m sure I’m going about this all wrong, but I couldn’t find any sort of submission area on the site. What I’m wondering is, how does one go about becoming a contributor to The Awl?”
Reading the differences between these pitches, they sound almost as if they’ve been exaggerated for effect – but I’ve already heard a few editors echo that this looks exactly pitches they receive. A friend of mine was talking about this last week and noted that women often start pitching to less prestigious publications thinking that they can’t aim for the top, while men often shoot for top publications first and then work their way down if they don’t get their first pitch accepted.
As a freelance writer, I do my fair share of pitching to various editors. Pitching is easily my least favorite part of the process – you want to get every single thing right and then you imagine how the editor will react to it and then fine-tune it again, before you finally send and hope they don’t reject the idea that you’re so excited about. I’d like to say I don’t fall into the trap of self-conscious, apologetic, overly cautious pitches, but I have definitely done it. And I’ve seen some of my female writer friends do it as well. Not that there’s anything wrong with politeness, but part of getting published is about how well you can sell yourself and your story to editors, right? So why the self-deprecation?
And this contributes to an overall larger problem for women in the media. Women are already less likely to pitch stories, and according to the Op-Ed Project, men make up 80% or more of newspaper op-ed pages; 84% of Sunday talk show guests; 85% of Hollywood producers; 85% of bestselling authors on the New York Times nonfiction bestseller list; and 83% of Congress.
There are some terrific groups dedicated to combating this problem – such as The Op Ed Project, the Women’s Media Center, Women, Action & The Media, and others; but despite the discussion around this issue it sometimes still seems like there’s still a lot of room for improvement. For me, reading the pitches highlighted by The Awl and noting the staggering difference in their tone and their ask was a big wakeup call – are women writers doing enough to promote themselves and their work? And are we doing our part to help other women journalists get published as well?